I've been a lurker of this forum for many years. I finally decided to create an account. It only took me about 14 years to do it. I have purchased from LM once years back. I've done other practices but actually forgot about Hoodoo for years and now I'm back.
So most of the past info I've been able to find by searching on here.
But I have some questions about root work or vigils and I see some similar topics but it's not quite exactly the same. I'm unsure where to find the information.
One is my other half is on a temper tantrum. He sometimes is influenced by my no good BIL who constantly talks crap about me behind my back even though I have been nice in the past. I'm just civil towards him now because I can't waste my energy on him. I just want to break the "friendship" between brothers. It's a very toxic one and my other half knows it. He's just pushed to spend time with his brother because their mother thinks a broken family is no good. I understand that toxic family members are no good for health and your family is whom you make it to be with friends. I don't always think blood members are always the best. If it wasn't for blood, they would not really be friends. So I'd like to separate them if possible and shut him up. But my other half needs to stand up for me too! I've never done anything to the brother, but be nice and he trashes me a lot. I know. I've seen the text as he refers me as the biyatch.
The other one is, whenever he fights with me, he returns to his parents and stays with them. He's nearing 40 and his parents have spoken to him late last year about fully moving out. But they also enable this behaviour by allowing him to do so. I know he doesn't tell them the truth about what happens. This happens on a yearly basis where we don't talk for weeks. How can I get his parents to stop allowing this? So he can deal with arguments with me like an adult

Also with addictions. In the past he used to drink a lot and do coke. The coke stopped. The drinking is minimal, but when I'm out of town (which is quite often) he tries to see old acquaintances and I won't say friends because these people make no effort to talk him or invite him. He is the one who asks to get invited. And when I'm away, if it's not a weekend they he has off, the weekday he'll just hang out with his good for nothing brother. It's not that I don't want him to have friends. Of course I do. I just want him to choose people who are genuine. He just chooses the old bar friends who don't care for him, you know the nostalgia stuff. But when he is out drinking with these people or his brother. He can't control how much he drinks. He'll lie to me over the phone to say he's had 3-4 but I know it's a lie. He's mean to me and hangs up on me and won't answer my calls until the next day. When I talk to him about it, he doesn't remember. I've called him an alcoholic in the past.
So I'm sorry, I could not find the exact help under previous questions. They are similar.
Thank you.